Thoughts and musings of an asexual violin lover who has a passion for Victoriana, Britain, and all loverly awesome things, including Sherlock Holmes and Benedict Cumberbatch.
My 30 Day Asexual Challenge
My massive Sherlock fanfic, A Scandal in Britain
Finishing this up finally… Going to put a link to this in my side-bar so it doesn’t get lost in my avalanche of Sherlock quotes and pretty Victorian ladies!
25. What is the worst argument you’ve heard against asexuality?
I haven’t really heard an argument against asexuality, per se. It’s more people wondering if you are a repressed homosexual, were abused as a kid, are frigid, or whatever. Sometimes I wonder if asexuality were more visible, if one of the most popular arguments against homosexuality - people can’t reproduce in same-sex romantic relationships; therefore, they’re unnatural - would also apply to asexuality. If we don’t reproduce in our romantic relationships, does that mean ours are unnatural, too? Maybe if more people took asexuality seriously, they’d then realize that argument against homosexuality is a load of bollocks. Because they can’t say it doesn’t apply to gay people and not to aces, too. But on second thought I guess it probably wouldn’t change their minds, because those same people don’t have a problem with post-menopausal women dating. Well, whatever. You can’t argue with illogical thoughts…
26. Who is your biggest ally?
27. What is your favorite types of cake?
Death by chocolate cake is always nice.
28. What is your favorite type of pie? (Or, is pie an acceptable replacement for cake?)
Don’t really have a favorite type of pie…
29. Where did you first learn about asexuality?
I already answered this. I think this questionnaire is kinda running out of steam. Anyway, it was via a Google search and then AVEN.
30. Tell us anything about asexuality that you want to end with.
Asexuals have nothing to be ashamed about. We are not immature. We are not freaks. We are not defective. We’re human beings, and therefore worthy of respect and honor and love. If you find yourself dreaming of someday finding someone to share your life with…don’t ever close off that door; remember that stranger relationships and stranger things have happened. I also think it’s important to embrace the possibility that someday you may find yourself dropping the asexual label and embracing a new one. Maybe someday you’ll find yourself identifying as demisexual. Maybe someday you’ll find yourself identifying as gay. Maybe someday you’ll find yourself identifying as straight. And you know what? That will be okay. There are no boxes. Labels are merely conveniences, tools to help you as you travel along on the road to self-awareness, acceptance, and love.
My final bit of advice is to hang out on Tumblr, watch Sherlock, and have some fun.